A few people have already reported to me that I don't reply to comments on socks. Yes. I know it. And I'm sorry. Why is it hapenning? It is easy. I take it as procrastination. Because texting someone is easy, it's nice, it's nice, it's instant, it has all those nice things in it. I'd like to spend time doing that too. A lot. I enjoy it.
But then I don't have time to fulfill my obligations. And they are not all and always only bringing pure joy and sometimes I just don't want to get into them. You probably know it, the kind of activities that no one enjoys. It can be preparing a presentation, a complex meeting or homework. Just the kind of activities that we sometimes have to do but that no one enjoys. You often have to find them. When we are already doing them, deliverance often comes in the form of new messages or comments. Benefits by the way dopamine, which will do us a lot of good. But is it really liberation? How easily do you return to that original activity?
I love communicating with people. But the real one
I don't want it to sound arrogant. I like communicating with people. I love her! I just prefer the direct one to the one under the posts on the walls of social networks. And I prefer the rich face 2 face version, not its virtual alternative stripped of gestures, emotions or body language. Of course, if offline is not possible, then great and let's go online. But online should remain only as an alternative. Not a substitute for the real world. At least that's how I feel.
Instead of responding to notifications (and that I basically have them all turned off), I'm trying to find a compromise. I answer, for example, in batches or at a designated time. It takes. It's rude. And I'm definitely missing out on a lot of interesting information and inspiration. But the price for constant availability is too high for me. And its effects on my offline life and attention are not negligible. I know that there is more inspiration and information on the Internet than I can absorb, on 10+ (emails, whatsapps, social networks) communication channels there is always someone to write to. But then I run away from things in reality. Or those much closer - perhaps time with family. And that makes me even more sorry. I'm just conserving my attention, energy and time. Nothing more.
I know that when I go to a social network "just to reply", I get stuck there for tens of minutes because something caught my attention. It's made that way and it's hard to fight. The more attention and personal data a network gets, the more successful it is. So I just try not to expose myself to those temptations.
Limited amount of energy, time and attention
I also take into account that, unfortunately, I have a limited amount of energy, time and attention, and when I invest it somewhere, it is lacking elsewhere. Whenever I say YES to something, it means NO to something else. YES writing this article means NO family time, training or scrolling on socks. And the second criterion is the added value of the activities I do. For me or someone else. Discussing on social networks in front of everyone and expressing your opinions because that's how it's done - you have to be seen and get impressions so that algorithms don't lower your rating and stop showing you - I consider it a shallow activity without much added value.
Social networks are losing the battle for "resources".
I guess not all of us feel that way, and surely someone has a different opinion. And that's okay. But when I put social media activity vs. creating something or spending quality time, so unfortunately he always loses the battle for my "resources". Exactly according to the rule YES to something, NO to everything else. Unfortunately, I can't do everything. I would like to, but it is not possible. And I have to cut somewhere. And I'm cutting here. Unfortunately, comment replies don't pay the bills and are just things that make me more satisfied.
